How long does it take for a heart to heal? Few days, few weeks, few months or few years? What is it about a certain people that you tend to trust them with your life? You overlook a mob of people who actually genuinely wanna be a part of your life, even if its in a trivial way. But give all the powers to those who are hell bent on misusing it? How is it that the love of the former is always a suffering and suffering from the later, love? Why is it that the victim endures all the agony and the culprit walks away free? These questions can definitely have no concrete answer.
There is indeed no solid path that can fasten the healing of a broken heart. Every tried and tested path has implications that may not particularly suit your cause. Sometimes it is as simple as you evaluating the situation, learning your lessons well and moving forward. Where as sometimes, the damage is so deep, that all you can feel is plain distrust and pain.
Your heart throws a barrage of questions to your brain - "How could he?" "How could you trust someone blindly?" "Was I wrong or was I wronged?"
Brains pulls out - Easy!!! It was all your fault! You throbbed for him not me!!!
Whole world is now topsy turvy! You were promised to be comforted in warmth of solid arms, assured of a gentle touch to wipe the tears of your face, guaranteed never ending love and support. Then the times did get bad. Warmth was long gone, it got bloody cold. Apparently, you were too good for him! Tears just strolled down your cheek, with no one to wipe it off. Support collapsed, love was lost. With no will to live, you kept surviving in hope that he would get back. He probably did come back. But this time he wasn't alone. Tears blinded you from seeing who his accomplice was, but you now you knew, your chapter was closed (probably even before it started!). No explanations given, no hint thrown, it was just a cruel hit and run case!
Been years since you were played with. You were marooned in a sorry state when someone did hold your hand. He got you out of the quick sand, healed you with love. Taught you how to trust, kissed life into you. Does it still hurt? Most likely, your answer you be "Eh.. no.. actually, I don't even wanna think about the past" So I consider it a point blank YES.
Relationships are really weird. The ones you think matter to you, die a slow death and you couldn't be bothered much! It's the one that you think you can come out off, kill you one breath at a time. The only answer to the suffering would be a CLOSURE. The more you run away from your fears, the more lead they get over you. So in the process of avoiding them, your heading for a head-on collision with them.
They say time heals? But does is it so? Even after years, if you are still clinging on the pain unleashed on you, how can you claim to be healed? You may now have a wonderful partner, but how can you be contended with what you have until you let go of what you thought belonged to you but doesn't! In every relationship that was a part of history but couldn't make it to the future, closure is the most important aspect. You need to ensure that there is nothing hanging in the air, no words that should have been spoken but weren't, no chapters that weren't ended and sure as hell, no skeletons in the closet. Save your tears for those who really matter.
Closure ensures you are set free. Life is like a book. You need to end one chapter to get into the next, else your life is wasted on just the introductions! It is scary, it is a daunting task. But no one told you it would be easy. The one who did is no longer with you! If you have someone to read the following chapters with, you need to get through with the previous one. Once you are out of it, you know you are in safe arms. Embrace your new life, sail through a new journey.
P.S : I love you my sailor!
There is indeed no solid path that can fasten the healing of a broken heart. Every tried and tested path has implications that may not particularly suit your cause. Sometimes it is as simple as you evaluating the situation, learning your lessons well and moving forward. Where as sometimes, the damage is so deep, that all you can feel is plain distrust and pain.
Your heart throws a barrage of questions to your brain - "How could he?" "How could you trust someone blindly?" "Was I wrong or was I wronged?"
Brains pulls out - Easy!!! It was all your fault! You throbbed for him not me!!!
Whole world is now topsy turvy! You were promised to be comforted in warmth of solid arms, assured of a gentle touch to wipe the tears of your face, guaranteed never ending love and support. Then the times did get bad. Warmth was long gone, it got bloody cold. Apparently, you were too good for him! Tears just strolled down your cheek, with no one to wipe it off. Support collapsed, love was lost. With no will to live, you kept surviving in hope that he would get back. He probably did come back. But this time he wasn't alone. Tears blinded you from seeing who his accomplice was, but you now you knew, your chapter was closed (probably even before it started!). No explanations given, no hint thrown, it was just a cruel hit and run case!
Been years since you were played with. You were marooned in a sorry state when someone did hold your hand. He got you out of the quick sand, healed you with love. Taught you how to trust, kissed life into you. Does it still hurt? Most likely, your answer you be "Eh.. no.. actually, I don't even wanna think about the past" So I consider it a point blank YES.
Relationships are really weird. The ones you think matter to you, die a slow death and you couldn't be bothered much! It's the one that you think you can come out off, kill you one breath at a time. The only answer to the suffering would be a CLOSURE. The more you run away from your fears, the more lead they get over you. So in the process of avoiding them, your heading for a head-on collision with them.
They say time heals? But does is it so? Even after years, if you are still clinging on the pain unleashed on you, how can you claim to be healed? You may now have a wonderful partner, but how can you be contended with what you have until you let go of what you thought belonged to you but doesn't! In every relationship that was a part of history but couldn't make it to the future, closure is the most important aspect. You need to ensure that there is nothing hanging in the air, no words that should have been spoken but weren't, no chapters that weren't ended and sure as hell, no skeletons in the closet. Save your tears for those who really matter.
Closure ensures you are set free. Life is like a book. You need to end one chapter to get into the next, else your life is wasted on just the introductions! It is scary, it is a daunting task. But no one told you it would be easy. The one who did is no longer with you! If you have someone to read the following chapters with, you need to get through with the previous one. Once you are out of it, you know you are in safe arms. Embrace your new life, sail through a new journey.
P.S : I love you my sailor!
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